Why is picking up women so hard? Many men think that bars and clubs are the best places to pick up women but the so-called ‘night game’ is not the best way to do it for many men, which will be explained further on in this article.
You will also find which is undoubtedly one of the very best ways to pick up women, and it’s not in bars and clubs.
And you’ve probably seen enough club pick-up scenes on TV or in movies and assumed that picking up women (in bars and clubs) is the “standard” way to go.
No doubt about it, bars and clubs are where the most beautiful women gather in high concentration. It would SEEM that you can take any one of them with you home.
But the truth is, the so-called “night game” is not as “easy” as you might think.
Here’s a popular misconception: “There are tons of women who are looking to get laid since they’re dressed up to attract men.” That’s not necessarily true.
Why women go to clubs
Men go to clubs to get laid, but most women go there to compete for attention (and thus they’re scantily clad) and boost their egos (as men hit on them non-stop). Although there are women who are looking for sexual relationships, most are merely FANTASIZING UNREALISTICALLY about meeting Mr. Right (such as a celebrity) who can totally blow her away.
If you do manage to interact with the girls, you have to combat the million distractions going on. Every hot girl is constantly hit on and offered new forms of entertainment. There are guys talking to her BEFORE and AFTER you do.
Let’s say you do get some numbers. Take into account that club girls tend to be more “flaky”. On average, you need to get a quite a few numbers before you can get laid once.
You know what’s ironic?
People also tend to assume cool guys and high status guys are getting laid a lot. Not truth either. A lot of them are only projecting this image to enjoy being envied.
The truth is, only a small percentage of men are REALLY getting laid a lot. The rest just come and go, spend money on drinks and girls and feel disappointed in the end. Out of those who do get laid, many of them don’t even know how to interact with women NORMALLY outside a club. They’re the so-called “social robots”.
The dating industry puts so much emphasis on night game because it’s the easiest market to hold training and demonstrate techniques, but what the dating industry does NOT want you to know is this:
A better way to get a date
The most natural and healthy way to date is social circle dating.
That’s the only way to date beautiful women WHILE building a healthy and rich life AND winning more friends at the same time.
Look, picking up women is NOT FOR EVERYONE, but social circle dating is.
On top of that, social circle dating does not conflict with night game. You don’t have to CHOOSE one out of the two. Night game skills still work. You can bring people into your social circles through, for example, cold approach (as opposed to through an existing friend). Sometimes, the mere capability of bringing more women into your social circles impresses other women in the social circles, as they’d naturally think you’re attractive, fun, friendly, trustworthy…
In fact, social circle dating may be the best way to date for YOU personally. You will not regret testing it out.
